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Sunday, June 19, 2022

My Complicated Relationship with Father's Day

My relationship with Father's Day is complicated. My admiration goes out to all who have great relationships with their Fathers, and to the Fathers who are important to their kids. I have a lot to say someday; I will say, father figures are less about the blood and DNA shared, and more about the role the person plays in a child's life. I never got to meet my actual birth father, I had a contentious relationship with my father that raised me, but his situation is not lost on me to a point of not understanding him. Everyone involved has passed away now, so I am not angsty or grudgy about anything. That relationship made me consciously decide to have no children of my own, and I have been helpful in raising children of others, which was equally contentious and satisfying on different levels. I am envious of those I know who have great Father/child relationships, and if you do not, I hope you at least have a figure in your life who guides you in some way.

These are the random things that cross my mind on Father's Day. It should not be a complicated day, but it is, and I largely ignore it. (Edit: this was posted at Facebook and there are many comments following from others, and their feelings. That post can be found HERE: FACEBOOK POST FATHERS DAY