My relationship with Father's Day is complicated. My admiration goes out to all who have great relationships with their Fathers, and to the Fathers who are important to their kids. I have a lot to say someday; I will say, father figures are less about the blood and DNA shared, and more about the role the person plays in a child's life. I never got to meet my actual birth father, I had a contentious relationship with my father that raised me, but his situation is not lost on me to a point of not understanding him. Everyone involved has passed away now, so I am not angsty or grudgy about anything. That relationship made me consciously decide to have no children of my own, and I have been helpful in raising children of others, which was equally contentious and satisfying on different levels. I am envious of those I know who have great Father/child relationships, and if you do not, I hope you at least have a figure in your life who guides you in some way.
These are the random things that cross my mind on Father's Day. It should not be a complicated day, but it is, and I largely ignore it. (Edit: this was posted at Facebook and there are many comments following from others, and their feelings. That post can be found HERE: FACEBOOK POST FATHERS DAY
